Let it Go

No, you’re not broken. You’re just human.

The lie they told might’ve lasted five minutes. But the aftershocks? Those can echo for months. Years, even.
And somehow, in the middle of all that—rage, betrayal, humiliation—your brain whispers the most dangerous thing of all:

“Maybe we can still fix this.”

Maybe if I just talk to them.
Maybe if I forgive them.
Maybe if I become someone worth staying faithful to.

That’s not love. That’s trauma dressing up as hope.

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So… why do I still want them?

Because your body doesn’t know how to uninstall an emotional attachment overnight.
Because they felt like home.
Because even when they hurt you, the thought of losing them hurts more.

And let’s be honest—there were moments. The good ones. The kind that tattoo themselves onto your nervous system and make you forget the red flags for a second. Those memories don’t just go away because they messed up.

Wanting them doesn’t make you pathetic.
It makes you someone who gave love real. Someone who believed.

But let’s go deeper.

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Betrayal hijacks the brain like a drug withdrawal

When someone cheats, you don’t just lose the relationship. You lose:

• The version of yourself that felt wanted.
• The story you were writing in your head.
• The illusion of safety.

Your nervous system isn’t wired to separate emotional pain from physical danger. So when they leave or lie, your brain scrambles to restore the original feeling—love, closeness, validation.
That’s why you’re craving them. You’re craving regulation.

But here’s what’s wild:
Going back to them won’t soothe the panic. It’ll extend it.

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You want closure? Try clarity instead.

Let’s get clear: they cheated.
That’s a boundary blown apart. A decision made behind your back. A betrayal that doesn’t disappear just because they say “I’m sorry.”

And if you’re waiting for them to explain why they did it, or to magically make you feel whole again—you’ll be waiting forever.

Instead of chasing their guilt, tend to your wound.
Use breakup recovery tools.
Try a no contact tracker.
Talk to people who’ve survived the same hell and came out wiser.
Get over an ex without erasing the good, but finally acknowledging the harm.

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You’re not addicted to them. You’re addicted to who you were with them.

And maybe that person felt radiant. Chosen. Safe.
But guess what?

They didn’t make you that. You always were.

So the real heartbreak? It’s not just losing them.
It’s losing the version of you who believed in forever.

But that version? She’s not gone.
She’s just waiting for you to stop begging someone else to recognize her worth.

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You deserve a love that doesn’t ask you to shrink.

One that doesn’t force you to question your reality.
One that doesn’t make loyalty feel like a one-way street.

And it starts with one hard truth:
Wanting someone who broke you doesn’t make you broken. But staying for another round of it might.

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