My Ex Wants Me Back: What Should I Do Now?

So, your ex wants you back.
Now what?

You have dreamt about this a million times and now that it is really happening, you are zapped, not knowing what your course of action should be.

It’s totally normal to feel a whole mix of stuff—maybe a little excitement, a little relief, confusion, and some fear too, and even some anger.

But the big question is: what now? How do you handle this without losing yourself again?

If you’re standing at this emotional crossroads, it is natural to get overwhelmed. We’ve seen this moment time and time again—and we know that jumping back in isn’t always the answer. Sometimes, healing means going forward, not backward.

Before you reply to that “I miss you” text with a ‘Miss you more’, we suggest you take a step back and reflect.


But seriously—pause.

You might feel the urge to say “yes” right away, especially if you’ve been aching for them to reach out. But this is your moment to really ask:

Why now?, What’s changed since the breakup?, Have the things that tore you apart actually been dealt with?, Do you really want this, or are you craving comfort and familiarity?


No, don’t rush.

It might feel like you’ve been handed a golden ticket—but slow your roll. The best breakup recovery app teaches us that moving slowly shows strength, not hesitation.

Let them know you’re open to talking, but you’re not going to pretend nothing happened.

Healing isn’t just about reconnecting—it’s about rebuilding. That takes time, boundaries, and sometimes, space. If they’re serious, they’ll meet you at your pace.


Talk is cheap, darlings!

They might say they’ve changed. They might apologize, cry, even swear they’re not the same. But here’s the truth: words are cheap.

Real change shows up in actions.
Have they actually taken responsibility for what happened?
Are they putting in effort to rebuild trust or improve communication?


Time for new boundaries

If you’re even thinking about giving it another shot, there needs to be a brand new blueprint. That old version of your relationship? That ended for a reason.

What are your new non-negotiables?
What do you need in order to feel respected, secure, and seen?

Talk about it. Clearly. Don’t tiptoe. The Let it Go app even has community boards and journaling features to help you figure out what those boundaries look like.

Because love without boundaries? That’s just chaos in disguise.


What next?

Maybe it works out.
Maybe it doesn’t.
You’ve got to be okay with either possibility.

The goal isn’t to win them back—it’s to stay true to you. If they can’t match your growth, your healing, your wholeness? Then they’re not your person anymore.


The Bottom Line

Getting back with an ex is not a fairy tale—it’s a serious choice. Take your time. Breathe through it. Reflect. Be honest. Let their actions do the talking. Set new rules. Be okay with walking away.

And remember, the Let it Go app is here through all of it. No judgment, just real support.

Because love shouldn’t cost you your peace.

You got this. 💛


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