Let it Go

You’re doing the no contact thing. You’ve hit the reset button, set the timer, deleted the texts, maybe even hidden your ex’s story on Instagram. And then… a memory hits you like a truck. Or a song. Or a dream where they’re back in your arms, saying all the right things. And suddenly, not texting them feels like trying to hold in a sneeze—tense, unnatural, and kind of painful.

So how do you not break no contact after a breakup, especially when your fingers are twitching to type out that “Hey…”?

Take a breath. You’re not alone. Here’s what we know helps:

1. Remember why you started.
You didn’t go no contact for fun. You did it because something was hurting. Maybe they weren’t showing up for you. Maybe you lost yourself in the chaos. Maybe you just needed to breathe without checking your phone every five minutes. Remind yourself of the reason every single time the urge to reach out creeps in. You’re not being mean. You’re choosing peace.

2. Romanticize your resistance.
Staying strong during no contact isn’t boring—it’s hot. It’s main character energy. Imagine yourself in a breakup movie montage: candles lit, headphones in, healing playlist on repeat. You’re journaling, dancing badly, talking to your cat about attachment theory. Every day you don’t text them is a day you get stronger. Celebrate that.

3. Get ahead of the spiral.
Craving contact often comes with a story: They don’t care. I made a mistake. Maybe if I just say one thing… Pause. That’s not truth talking, that’s your nervous system. Try switching the channel. Take a walk. Watch something funny. Send a voice note to a friend. The thoughts will pass—if you don’t act on them.

4. Create a “Break Glass in Case of Emergency” ritual.
Have a go-to list for when you’re about to cave. That might include:

• Writing a message you never send (we love the ‘Write it, don’t send it’ feature on the Let it Go app).
• Reading old journals to remember why you walked away.
• Listening to a podcast on heartbreak recovery.
• Leaving your phone in another room and making a snack like it’s an act of rebellion.
  When the storm comes, you’ll have shelter ready.

5. Know the contact isn’t magic—it’s a loop.
Reaching out might give you five seconds of relief. But then what? The ache starts again. The overthinking. The disappointment. That’s the loop no contact breaks. You’re not just avoiding your ex—you’re choosing not to re-enter the maze.

6. Let the app hold you.
Use the Let it Go timer as your anchor. Post in the community when you feel the itch to reach out. We’ve all been there—and we’re rooting for you. Healing is messy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

7. Be gentle with yourself, but firm with your boundaries.
You’re allowed to miss them. You’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to whisper their name in the dark. But texting them? That’s a decision. And every time you choose not to, you’re re-teaching your heart how to come home to you.

So if you’re googling how to resist texting your ex during no contact, here’s your answer: you don’t wait for the craving to go away. You let it be there—and don’t act on it. That’s the real magic. Not silence, but self-respect.

You’ve got this. And we’ve got you.