Let it Go

The breakup wounds are still fresh, your phone still auto-fills their name when you type, and yet here you are, already dipping your toes back into the dating pool. Maybe it’s a rebound. Maybe it’s revenge. Maybe it’s a desperate attempt to prove to yourself that you’re totally fine (even though your search history says otherwise).

But is jumping into something new right now an act of self-care or self-sabotage in disguise? Let’s break it down.

The Case for Self-Healing

Look, sometimes the best way to shake off the breakup blues is a little reminder that your world didn’t end with your last relationship. Flirty texts, a cute date, a little dopamine boost—it’s the emotional equivalent of a spa day. And if the breakup was a long time coming, you might not even be rushing. Maybe you were already emotionally checked out long before the official split, and this new connection is just a natural next step.

Besides, dating again can be a confidence reset. You’re reminded that you’re desirable, that life moves on, and that you still have the power to choose who gets your energy. If it’s making you feel genuinely good, not just temporarily distracted, then who’s to say it’s wrong?

The Case for Self-Destruction

But let’s be real—if you’re still crying in the shower, stalking your ex’s socials, and secretly hoping they see you with someone new, then this isn’t healing. It’s a coping mechanism with an expiration date. When the thrill of fresh attention fades, you’re still left with the same unresolved pain.

Dating too soon can also be a way of avoiding yourself. Instead of processing your emotions, you’re using someone else as a human Band-Aid. And that’s unfair—to you and the person you’re dragging into your emotional rollercoaster. Because at some point, the rebound high wears off, and if you haven’t done the inner work, that heartbreak is still waiting for you.

The Let It Go Take

So, which is it? Self-healing or self-destructive? The truth is, only you can answer that. The difference comes down to why you’re doing it. If it’s out of confidence, curiosity, or genuine interest, you do you. But if it’s out of desperation, loneliness, or revenge, take a step back.

Instead of rushing to fill the void, try focusing on you first. Use the Let It Go app to track your no-contact progress, journal out your feelings, and actually process your breakup instead of slapping a new relationship over it like duct tape. Because real healing? That starts with you.

👉 Download Let It Go now on iOS or Android and start your healing journey today.