Breaking up is painful enough, but certain mistakes make it even harder to heal. You might think you’re doing the right things—checking in on your ex, staying friends, or overanalyzing what went wrong—but in reality, these habits keep you emotionally stuck.
If you’re struggling to move on, you might be making some of these common breakup mistakes without even realizing it. Let’s break them down and, more importantly, fix them.
1. Stalking Your Ex’s Social Media
You tell yourself you’re just “checking,” but deep down, every scroll through their feed is a fresh stab to the heart. Constantly checking their social media keeps you emotionally tethered and feeds the illusion that they’re still a part of your life.
➡️ Fix it: Unfollow, mute, or block them. If that feels too extreme, start with a temporary detox and track your progress.
2. Holding Onto Their Stuff
That hoodie that smells like them? The photos in your camera roll? The playlist you made together? Keeping reminders of them only prolongs the pain.
➡️ Fix it: Pack away anything sentimental. You don’t have to throw it out immediately, but putting it out of sight will help shift your focus forward.
3. Staying “Friends” Too Soon
Trying to stay friends immediately after a breakup is like ripping off a bandage before the wound has healed. If feelings are still involved, it’s not friendship—it’s lingering attachment.
➡️ Fix it: Give yourself time and space before even considering friendship. Real friendships aren’t built on unresolved emotions.
4. Overanalyzing Why They Left
Breakups often feel like a puzzle we need to solve. But constantly replaying every conversation and looking for hidden meanings won’t bring peace—only exhaustion.
➡️ Fix it: Accept that some questions won’t have clear answers. Closure doesn’t come from understanding why—it comes from choosing to let go.
5. Letting Loneliness Trick You Into Texting Them
The late-night urge to reach out? It’s loneliness talking, not logic. Texting your ex rarely brings relief—it usually just reopens old wounds.
➡️ Fix it: Use a No Contact Timer to keep track of how long you’ve gone without reaching out. Each day is a win.
6. Comparing Yourself to Their New Partner
They moved on. They’re dating someone new. And now you’re stuck comparing yourself to a stranger on Instagram, picking apart their looks, personality, and wondering if they’re “better.”
➡️ Fix it: Remind yourself that their rebound doesn’t define your worth. Focus on your own growth instead of their timeline.
7. Thinking Getting Back Together is the Only Way to Be Happy
It’s easy to believe that the pain will only end if they come back. But your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone who left.
➡️ Fix it: Shift your focus from “How do I get them back?” to “How do I get back to myself?” Your healing is about you, not them.
Healing Starts When You Stop Holding On
Breaking free from these mistakes isn’t about being “strong” overnight—it’s about making small, intentional choices every day that bring you closer to peace.
If you’re ready to truly let go, download Let it Go and start taking steps toward healing. You don’t have to stay stuck—your best life is still ahead.
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